It is with great sadness to say that our daugther will not be returning home with us. As it turns out, we were one of three options our daughter had for her future....two of her options allowed her to remain in China and with a safe future. She chose not to be adopted and at her age, the choice is hers. The guide and orphange showed up unexpectantly during our lunch, the day we were to sign the final paper work. We knew it wasn't going well but thought it was part of the process of adoption with an older child. We had no idea the depth of the situation. The orphanage representatives and our guide spoke with her for 30 minutes and when leaving, they took her back with them to the orphange. We were completely caught off-gurd. It was very unexpectant. It was very sad.
This is a very rare situation and our guide who has handled adoptions for many years, says this is a first time she has seen this happen. We are sad and our hearts are heavy.
While this trip has been one of great sadness, we are thankful for the friends we've met on this journey, Sheila, Annie, Karen, Jagi, Beth, Kim, Kai, Johnny, Poppie, Stowell Family, Apryl and many others who have in one way or another touched our lives in a positve manner....the GSWI group has offered great support. Our guide Connie, handled our situation in a professional but personal manner. We could not have asked for a better guide. Our agency reached out to us, immediately. We are thankful to the friends and family God has placed in our path during our time of great sadness.
Once we return home, we will be on a plane 2 days later to get away as a family and begin to place this behind us and begin to heal. We're not ready for questions or to discuss in detail.
PS: It was very sad also knowing that Sterling was begining to accept her and was holding her hand when we walked out in public. The following morning, after she was gone, Sterling ran into the living area, searching for her. We had to tell him, she was gone. He did this for 2 solid mornings, before realizing she was not returning.
As most of you know, Sterling has been in our family for 1 year. He is the joy in our lives! There are still many concepts he does not understand and fortunately in this siutation, he had not yet understood what it meant to have a sister.
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Know that your Christian family is carrying this burden with you as we should. I have cried daily for you Earl, Miao and little Sterling. My heart breaks for all of you. i pray that our abba father will wrap you all up in his big daddy arms and comfort you only as he can. I pray for a peace beyond understanding. No one can imagine what you are going through. I hope that your get away time is spent loving each other to peices and healing as family. Thank you for being transparent and sharing. I know God still has mighty plans to use your family for his glory. you have been nothing but faithful jars of clay that have been obedient even when it doesn't make sense. I don't know you, but I can tell from your written words you are wonderful people. We are praying in Houston.
ReplyDeleteI am praying for your family! I cannot imagine what you are walking through or why God has allowed this to happen. But I do know that He is good and He is faithful all the time! Cling to Him and His truths to carry you through this difficult time. May you feel the prayers of others carrying you through. Blessings,
ReplyDeleteSherry Semlow
I am praying for you all. I feel awful for you all, and this has to be really hard on Sterling. Remember that He is faithful forever.
ReplyDeleteJolene
I am so sorry for your family. I am praying you find peace and that you can comfort each other and move forward. I am truly sorry this has happened to you.
ReplyDeleteKim Reichenbach
Sharee , I know that no words can take the sorrow away, but just know that you have people in your life who care and are all thinking about you now. Hold tight to each other and take the healing one day at a time.
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Robyn
You are in my constant thoughts and prayers! I cannot even begin to imagine how you feel! I am so sorry! Just know that God has a plan...even though right now you can't see it yet. God Bless you!
ReplyDeleteAlison (GSWI yahoo board friend)
I am so sorry!! There are no words, but please know we are lifting your family up in prayer. Praying you can have a time of healing as a family these next few days away.
ReplyDeleteSharee,
ReplyDeleteWhen Tim first posted about a family experiencing a disruption, I had no idea it was a fellow Yahoo group family. I am so, so, sorry. I'm sure no human can offer the right words to provide comfort, but I will definitely pray that the Lord, our God will wrap his arms around your family.
Amy
I'm so sorry. Praying that the Lord provides supernatural healing for your family. May He give you peace in time.
ReplyDeleteKelly
I am so sorry to hear of your heartache. I pray that you feel the prayers of many people lifting you up and sustaining you. We, too, experienced a similar heartache this past summer on our adoption trip. If being in contact with another family who has walked a similar road would be helpful, feel free to contact me. smurphy28@juno.com
ReplyDeleteSharee,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for the pain you are feeling right now. I pray that your family finds peace.
Sharee, still praying for your sweet family. I hope you are home and safe and preparing for your family get-a-way. I will continue to pray for the healing of your heart.
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Sheri
You have been in my thoughts and prayers over the past days. I can not imagine what your family has been through. I am praying for God's healing.
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Kim Brasher and family
Dear Sharee and family~
ReplyDeleteJust read the news for the first time. My heart is heavy for each of you. We will be praying for peace and comfort for you as you walk this unexpected journey. God will bring beauty from these ashes. Praying you feel held by Him in the meantime. love, The Hume Family
Earl, Sharee and Sterling...We are so sorry to hear the unexpected news! We are praying for you all that God will give you the peace that you are needing at this time but the joy that you have with Sterling and celebrating the 1 year with him. He is such a blessing! Wishing you God's blessings upon you at this time!
ReplyDeleteLove, Mike, Kristy and Ayla Thornton
Sharee, Earl and Sterling you are on my heart and in my prayers. Really sorry to hear about the sad news. If you feel up to it we are all getting together at Aunt Pam's Christmas Eve to spend time with family; we would love to see you. Love to you guys, Rhonda
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. I have just stumbled to your blog, but I will be praying for your family to heal and find the purpose of this journey. Letting the Son shine, Brandee
ReplyDeleteHi! I just found your blog through someone elses and have not read beyond your last post. We adopted a 12 1/2 year old girl from China nearly 3 years ago; we are now in the process of disrupting the adoption as she has chosen to not be part of our family. My heart goes out to you yet I know from experience you have been spared untold suffering. I wish our daughter would have said "no" in China rather than coming to a place she did not want to be. We feel your pain and truly understand your disappointment. We wish you joy and healing in the days ahead.
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